Hello, and welcome to my last in our series on relationship dynamics between man and God. I’ve enjoyed writing these for the past month as they’ve caused me to think not only about what kind of human-divine relationships there are, but how exactly my own fellowship with God operates. Do I see God as a best friend, a parent, a lord or an alien? In truth, I feel like I often vacillate between these, but more often than not, I see a vassalage (Lord-Servant dynamic) relationship focused on duty and honor. After all, a daily prayer that I never even realized became a habit was “Lord, please make me honorable today, and help me to honor you.”
But how do these four dynamics function together? In truth, they present a sort of spectrum, varying from closeness to distance.
Best Friend <————— Parent ————— Lord —————> Alien
Closest ————————————————————– Most Distant
From this, it might be a natural impulse to say that the Best Friend dynamic is automatically the best because it fosters the closest intimacy between God and humanity. Now while intimacy is very important, and a goal worth striving for, we cannot forget the benefits of the Alien dynamic, which causes us to rethink our preconceived notions of God and recognize that there are aspects of his character that we, as mortal men doomed to die, will never truly understood.
So does that mean we should strike for the middle ground, trying to hit some sort of “sweet spot” between the Parent and Lord dynamics? Nay, I say. Instead, I think it would be good for us to try and find the important aspects to emulate from each paradigm.
From the Best Friend dynamic, we enjoy a closeness with God as the Holy Spirit, feeling his presence all around us. By recognizing that power, the force of God, we can do mighty things for God, so long as we don’t take the closeness of that relationship for granted.
From the Parent dynamic, we can recognize that God is helping us to mature, and realize that the trials we face are there to make us a better person. In addition, seeing God in this way ensures us that we have someone divine looking out for us, so we needn’t fear the dark spiritual forces of this world. After all, the great Lord of Lights is shining his light on us, and the sacrifice he made for us has rescued us from that very threatening darkness. But we needn’t forget that God is more than a parent, and the family dynamic must not be overemphasized as the only proper method for viewing God.
From the Lord dynamic, we recognize our own duty to God, and we seek to honor him with our servitude. Recognizing our own responsibility to the Cosmic Creator pushes us to effect real change in the world, reaching out to do his will in place of our own. Missionaries have struggled in the deepest recesses of our planet in servitude to their Lord, and we should be willing to do whatever he asks of us. But we must remember that God is not a distant lord, but a merciful, caring one. He is no distant despot but a king who invites you to his table for the feast, and we enjoy his presence in our reverence.
And from the Alien dynamic, we recognize that our search is never fully complete. God can never be fully understood, encapsulated or contained within a heart, a book or the universe itself. Part of him will always remain unknown to humanity. But that need not be discouraging; on the contrary, it should fuel our search, pushing us to learn more, to seek more, to press onward on our journey of discovery. And we must never look down upon those who are unsatisfied in their search, but instead try to join the search alongside them.
I love that God is so dynamic. There is no perfect template that can be laid across him, no perfect description of his relationship with the people of our planet. His reality is multi-faceted, ever-changing, putting us outside of our comfort zones only to call us back into his warm embrace, giving us a Spirit to rely on while causing us to look just a little bit deeper, to go just a little bit further, to never become complacent but to conform our spirits to his own will for us. In so doing, this alien Lord we serve will become both our parent and our friend.
Until next time, friends…